Tnfld | Episode 23: Our self-care toolbox

Our self-care toolbox

In the last podcast we talked about the Survival Mode Spectrum and how most of us are on it to some degree. So what do you do next? How do you deal? In this episode we talk about the best things we’ve tried and added to our own self-care toolbox. What really does the trick? What’s worth the $$$? What can you do for free? So have a listen and let us know what’s worked for you too!

Some information on NET (Neural Emotional Technique) cited in this ep:

What is it?
A recent study on its efficacy.

If you’re in Sydney check out:

If you’re in the Gold Coast check out:

Some girlfriend podcasts, for when you need a pick me up:

  • Life Uncut: Two girls in Bondi and former bachelorettes discuss the stuff you love talking about with your friends.
  • Girls Gotta Eat: They’re Sex and the City 2020. Have some fun and lift your spirit with these girls’ girls.
  • Love-life Podcast: beautiful lessons to help you when you need them most. It’s no longer in production, but there are over 200 episodes and they are A++
  • James Smith/Fair Points: Three British blokes living in Bondi trying to make sense of it all. An easy and comforting listen. (Make sure the title includes ‘Fair Points’).

Tnfld | Episode 22: My first time…abroad

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My first time…abroad

Usually around that time you finish high school is when, if you’re lucky enough, it’s time to take your first sojourn…solo. Tory and I both had the opportunity to travel in Europe separately around the age of 19 and from her stories as an au pair in France and Belgium and my stories as a backpacker in Greece…and two week au pair in Italy…we can pretty safely say we made the most of it. It’s not even what you do really, but what you become by the end of it. It’s the first test of who you are, a right of passage and memories you will never forget. If you’re looking for a little escape, tune into the podcast for story time.

Tnfld Podcast / Episode 21: The Survival Mode Spectrum…where do you sit?

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The Survival Mode Spectrum…are you on it?

From Auto-Pilot to Survival Mode, the majority of people nowadays live their life somewhere on the spectrum. The question is…do you? We put together the six badges people on the SM spectrum tend to wear and a questionnaire to help you identify if you’re living in cruise control.

The telltale signs someone (or you!) is in Survival Mode
  1. They appear successful and super together.
  2. If you ask them if they’re happy there’s always a hesitation/sense of dissatisfaction/inability to just say YES.
  3. If you go deeper, there’s always an underlying health symptom or issue that’s begun to pop up (for example: not sleeping, panic attacks, bowel issues, auto immune disorder, etc.).
The six most common Survival Mode badges
  1. Strong independent woman
  2. Complacent couple
  3. Money Maker
  4. Big Night Out-er
  5. Namaste Guru
  6. Leprechaun (looking for their pot of gold!)
Are YOU in Survival Mode?
  • Do you get home from work and melt into your couch with your comfort of choice… wine, chocolate, etc?
  • Do you always have your next vacation booked and are already planning the next one?
  • Are you counting down the minutes to 5pm on Friday when you can have that first drink?
  • Is it a boring day at work when you don’t have a package delivered?
  • Do you frantically text all your contacts when you realise you don’t have plans for the night?
  • Have you ever felt like a deer in the headlights when someone has asked you how you’ve been?
  • Do you find yourself staying up super late at night even when you know you have to work early in the morning?
  • Do you fantasise about injuring yourself so you won’t have to go in to work?
  • Do you find yourself deactivating and reactivating your social media accounts?
  • Do you find that even when you make more money it never seems to be enough?
  • Do you constantly feel like you rarely have a free moment to yourself?

The Health Effect

  • How is your sleep? Is it restful or stressful?
  • How are your bowel movements? Are they regular (1-few times a day), easy, and solid?
  • How is your skin, hair nails? Bright and shiny? Dry, thin and patchy?
  • Girls: How is your period? Guys & Girls: How is your sex drive?
  • How is your tummy? Strong and settled constantly upset?
  • How is your mental health? Anxiety overload, panic attacks
  • How is your immune system? Do you get sick all the time? Do you catch everything?

We break down what the badges are, which badges we are and what survival mode has looked like for us in the past. And most importantly, how to break out of it!

Tnfld Podcast | Episode 20: This much we know is NOT true

This much we know is NOT true

Celebrating our 20th episode we decided to go through the top ten things we discovered were myths during our own personal growth.

  1. Turning 30 is scary.
  2. Happiness comes from within.
  3. Family is everything.
  4. But he/she’s my soulmate!
  5. This is the worst thing that’s happened to me.
  6. It will look good on my resume.
  7. You should act like an adult.
  8. I’m too old.
  9. There must be something wrong with me.
  10. They’re ruining my life!

We break down these societal tropes and break down Netflix’s Selling Sunset (it’s relevant, promise!).

As always, give it a listen and let us know your thoughts!

– Alex & Tory xx

Tnfld Podcast | Episode 19: Why we quit the birth control pill

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The Pill: The myths, the truth and our decisions

After 13 years of blind, dedicated devotion Alex quit the pill. Tory quickly followed suit. Why the abrupt turnaround? What did we discover? And was coming off the pill as bad as everyone said it would be?

We’re both about four years post pill and in that time we have learned A LOT about our bodies. We debunk the three big myths surrounding the pill (that we believed for over a decade), recount our individual experiences coming off the pill and more. If you’re a woman on OR off the pill, this is something you will want to hear. – Tory & Alex

Want to dive deeper?

The period Queen. Great book and great blog…this is the book that I wish I had five years ago.
Great podcast, great book and great blog!
The pill and your gut
The pill and your gut part deux
How the pill switches off your hormones and why that matters
The birth control pill can have male side effects
Who could see this coming?
My amazing Naturopath!

Tnfld Podcast | Episode 18: Should you go to law school?

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So…should you go to law school?

There is a well worn path that many post-uni students have travelled: You’re done with your undergrad and uninspired by the entry level jobs available to you…so what do you do next? Well, why not go to law school?!

We talk about Tory’s experience becoming a lawyer and why immediately upon graduating she decided to move to Australia and leave the law world behind. Was law school worth it? Does she regret her experience? Will she ever return to the bar?!

Tnfld Podcast | Episode 16: There’s no place like…Australia

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Australia…the land of dreams come true

Do you live in a cold and grey place? Do you spend your COVID days dreaming of a land far, far…down under?

Well you’ve come to the right place. If you’ve ever thought about moving to Australia, but aren’t sure if the grass is really greener, listen to this episode for a breakdown on what makes Australia the best country in the world and the place you want to be…once we’re allowed to go places again :).

Do you know what these Aussie words mean?

Brekkie, Avo, Arvo, aggro, Maccas, mozzie, relo, renos, bin, rocket, prawns, barbie, thongs, Biccie, chock, Bub, cuppa, footy, deco, servo, bottle o, tinny, dero, coppa, tradie, muso, brickie, firey, ambo, facey, prezzi, Chrissie, root, Early mark, chuck a sickie, she’ll be right, how ya going, no worries, reckon, heaps, keen, hire instead of rent, how you going, icy pole, sausage sizzle, shrimp on the barbie, sambo, scull, maaatttttteeeee

*Disclaimer: This is also a semi formal comparison of Canada vs. Australia. Proceed at your own risk and let us know what you think!

Our Aussie prep recommendations:

Tnfld Podcast | Episode 15: Boundaries, let’s get physical and emotional

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Why you need boundaries for your physical AND emotional state

Do you ever feel tired after hanging out with someone? Or feel like there’s just never enough time to do anything? How about feeling like you just want to escape away from it all?

Chances are you’ve got some energy leaks. You’re losing energy daily on external things, which leaves you with an empty tank to run on. We talk about how we address these leaks in our emotional space and our physical space. There is A LOT you can do to keep your energy strong and to yourself. Give us a listen and let us know what you think!

Tnfld Podcast | Episode 14: How to read your astro chart

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Have you ever wanted to know more about your astrological self?

Do you feel like you don’t quite fit with the description of your sign? Have you noticed patterns with the astro signs of the people in your life?

Well we’re here to help. We go through how to do a very simple read of your astrological chart and how to start spotting the patterns in your life. Knowledge is power and astro literacy is a great tool to help you understand your world.

Where to get your astro chart
  • Full chart with elements. This is the chart we reference during the podcast. You MUST put in your birth time and place of birth for the full chart to appear.
  • Beautiful chart. Shows you your Yods (not discussed in podcast) and other yummy astro things you can start to delve deeper into, if you wish.
And here’s a little layout for socials. If you fill it out on Insta, let us know! @tnfld_

Tnfld Podcast | Episode 13: Let’s talk about our worries

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What are you worrying about right now? Is it really something that you can control?

We’ve all got worries and it’s easy to get swept up in them during uncertain times likes these. Talking about our worries is one of the best ways to work through them and to realise they’re probably not as bad as we think they are. We run through some of our recent anxieties and how we cope.

Tools for the anxious mind:

In 2013 I was stuck on a farm in a small town in Australia. I knew I was getting out soon and I knew that whatever I chose to do next would shape my entire life. I was terrified of making the wrong decision and my anxiety was running rampant. I decided to plot out my options as thoroughly as I could and create my own ‘crystal ball’ that would give me a glimpse at my possible futures. Here’s my chart below as an example. Hopefully it can help you too!


How to live a life Tnfld. A life that is true, real and bountiful… expansive as the sky above.

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